William's Weekly Update: Weekly update: 05/11/2010 Our wedding testimony

Dear brothers and sisters,

it’s been a while since my last WWU. During the 3 weeks of wedding preparation, it’s been hectic but yet fruitful.

Although now I’m in the middle of my honeymoon at Western Australia, I still never forget to share with you my spiritual journey of our wedding.

The Test of Faith again (10 days before wedding)

10 days before my wedding 29^th Oct 2010, I was invited to attend a 4 day course on self-improvement through understanding the “model of human behavior”. People may thought I am crazy for taking up this 4 day course especially when I should be busy with my wedding preparation. To me, somehow I know this is calling from God and door has been opened clearly that I should take this course.

After completing this course, I am now more confident to say that it is His divine timing for giving me this skill during the most hectic period of my wedding preparation.

Recently, I have been getting pretty emotional and easily agitated whenever Jing and I discussed about wedding stuff. Eg. I will get easily stressed whenever I hear Jing’s mum voice, the overtly dominating and unreasonable tone; any slight disagreement with Jing will make me very angry. The worse part of this disagreement is Jing also began to shut herself off from my attitude. Above that, my mum also got herself involve into some debt issue. Imagine how stressful a person would be when he were attacked from both external pressure (wedding preparation) and internal pressure (family issue.)

Thankfully, with the skills equipped from the course, it gives me a wider and clearer perspective of why they will react in certain ways when I speak or situation arises and how to handle situation like this with more practical and efficient way.

I learnt to be patient with them. Understanding their personality also allow me to provides the correct ingredients for their needs (internally) and in return they helped me with my needs (externally) for my wedding preparation. Eg, I know my mum’s already felt very guilty about her debt so there’s no need to add extra pressure to her by lecturing her. Instead I listened to her patiently and realize the cause of her debt issue is due to my absentee recently that causes her to feel lonely and empty. After providing her what she needs, she helped me with the preparation of the wedding by cleaning up the house and bought all the necessary decoration for the tea ceremony too. I also apply the same lesson on others as well. Understanding them and their needs, really helps me a lot.

Praise God for providing me this skill in His divine timing that I am able to know the root of problem instead of trying to solve the surface problem by using coercive force on them. Thank God for the wonderful course and further mould me to become who He wants me to be. I also would like to thank David Chan, David Nget and Amy Nget for your encouragement to me to take up this course. Thanks God for putting you in my life.

An assignment from God (5 days before wedding)

5 days before wedding day, I had to rearrange the whole video clip again that was supposed to be screened on my wedding day. The purpose of this video is to tell our guests how God has led and blessed Jing and me throughout our courtship days. Initially this video is supposedly to be assembled together by my videographer friend but I had to rearrange it again as I realized I am the only one who is the best candidate to bring out the actual story of whole scenario and storyboard and also the very important message – “We love because God first loved us”.

Time is pressing and we were still correcting and finalizing the details 2 days before wedding. But God is good, because we placed our priority on Him, He allows me to complete the video the night before wedding and it was even vet through by my teacher Xiaoyu before it was screened the next day. I felt so energized even through I’ve been working till morning for the past 2 days. My ‘food’ is from the completion of my heavenly father’s assignment.

Just some notes, during the week, I was actually planning a surprise for Jing while she marches in but the door didn’t opened because I was too busy with video. It was only later then I understand why God didn’t open the door.

The God honoring wedding (29^th Oct 2010, Actual wedding day)

After 7^th July 2009 proposal, the day had finally come. Through this wedding, I truly experience the bible verses that said, “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” Matthew 6:33

Ever since we offered our wedding to God, so as to glorify His name. God had been providing everything we need for the wedding, even all our heart desires. Eg. From the traditional wooden benches to the candle lighted night church wedding. God gave us a very unique wedding. But what more amazingly is everything in the wedding involves our friends’ works and also our brothers and sisters’ involvement that are very dear to us. Eg. From wedding photo shoots to Jing’s wedding gown. God gave us a very personalized wedding.

The whole wedding went very smoothly. The wedding gallery and the video had done a great job to share our love testimony of how God bought both of us for the trials together over these years. This wedding also shared an important message that God had been trying to show us since the world creation. “We love each other because God loved us first.” 1 John 4:19

For many months, we had been praying that this wedding could be used by God to sow the good news into their heart, especially for those who longed to be loved. And we know it has, especially to both of our mothers who both desire to be loved.

Before I end here, I would like to express my deepest thanks to everyone who came, supported and even prayed for our wedding. Without your support and willing heart, this wedding wouldn’t be possible. Thank you, my friends. Last but not least, God, I would like to thank you for putting them in our life. =)

Oh, remember I told you a while ago that I actually intend to plan a surprise for Jing by singing to her while she march in at the beginning of the wedding but God didn’t open the door because of my video. The reason for that was, Jing had planned a surprise for me. She sang her favorite song “thank you for your love” for me at the end of the wedding. I was surprised and also very touched. God, You are so good to me. You have given me what my heart desired. Thank you, God. And also thank you Jing.